Just Wait, It Goes So Fast

Probably the number one thing that annoyed me during my pregnancy was just wait. I'd say I was feeling okay, and someone would tell me to Just wait until you can't see your feet! or that I had heartburn and they'd tell me Just wait until you can't even eat anything your stomach is so squashed! These comments annoyed me because they ignored what I was experiencing (I'm okay with tips, really, how about 'I ate saltines'?) and also assumed that what I would experience in pregnancy would be the same as someone else. And pregnancy? Is an individual experience.

I don't know what Just wait is supposed to do for me. It's a 'You think you've got it bad' competitive feel, the need to tell someone it's going to get worse, and to the next point, It Goes So Fast.

I hear that every two seconds it seems, about children. Enjoy it now, because it goes so fast. In a blink, they'll be 18. Well, that makes a lot of sense, because half a blink ago I was 18.

And then we cycle back around to Just Wait. Just Wait until they're toddlers throwing a temper tantrum. Just wait until your teenager wants nothing to do with you.

Pardon me, I'm still working on enoying it now, because it goes so fast.

I know that these are conversational tools. It's an easy start to a conversation, a bland nothing to toss out there. People who I'm close to - they don't toss these in the conversation. They know I'm enjoying it now, and that really, I can just wait. To hear it 10 times a day from people who are just trying to say something without saying anything, well, just tell me you miss those days when your kids were young, and I might ask you how old they are now, and what they're doing, and then we can talk Momma-et-Momma.